Watching Cam Girls for the First Time: Everything you didn’t know you needed to ask

Have you heard about watching cam girls online but are not sure how that works, or what you need to know? Well here are the answer to the questions you didn’t even know you had.

Who am I and what makes it ok for me to guide you? My name is Hony (rhymes with Pony) and I’ve been a camgirl for more than 20 years, yes I may have been camming when you were in kindergarten, and I’ve been thinking and writing about webcams for all that time. As well as camming myself I also am bi-curious and enjoy watching other camgirls, so I understand what makes cams work from both sides of the screen.

Why should you read this? Because I know that you want to try camming, but might not know what you are getting yourself in for, and I’d like it to be a great first, and subsequent, experience and not a damaging, scary or bankrupting one.

What will I cover? These main points:

• How to watch camgirls
• What are the good (and bad) reasons for doing so
• Camming safely
• Enjoying watching camgirls
• Knowing when enough is enough

Let me get started right away with the “how” part

How to watch camgirls

First, you’ll need to find a reputable camming website. Some popular ones include Stripchat, Chaturbate, and Xcams. Once you’ve chosen a site, create a free account. This will allow you to interact with the models and access more features.

Do you really need to create an account? Sure you cloud get started without one, but it is very much the kid-outside-the-sweet-shop-looking-in experience. You get the general idea, but you are not really participating.

Creating an account allows you to mark girls as your favorite, to chat with them, to tip them if you choose, and hence to request specific actions or poses. It also ensures a more personalized experience, as models will start to recognize and greet you by your username.

Once you have an account and are logged in, a few sites will ask you to click a verification email, but not all do this, and even on those cam sites that do it is generally no issue if you have sensibly used a porn-specific email account.

• 8 Steps to Protecting Your Anonymity and Privacy

Then it is a matter of browsing through the girls and finding one you like. On the downside this feels quite like visiting a “meat market” of girls, but remember they can’t see you and there is no way for them to know who you have looked and liked, or disliked. Nobody knows if you have “swiped right” or “swiped left” so it is entirely, and safely and privately, up to you to choose the one that appeals.

And on the upside, this is like visiting a meat market of incredibly hot girls who are trying hard to be as attractive as possible.

Everybody likes something different. Are you a leg lover or an ass aficionado? Or are you like me and are fascinated by girls with great tits? This is one place in the world where it is perfectly ok to have a preference and to follow that preference to find the camgirl who best suits your tastes.

The larger cam sites have a huge range of girls available to chat with, and sometimes it can be a bit overwhelming.

Stripchat, Chaturbate and MyFreeCams in particular are huge with thousands of girls available. But Stripchat really has good search and category features that let you find just the right model you want.

It need not be based on body-type either,; maybe you want to find someone who is into gaming, or books, or one that just wants to hang out and chat about everyday life. You can filter by age, location, or even specific kinks. Don’t be afraid to explore and try different rooms to find what you like best.

Remember, this is entertainment and recreation. It is supposed to be fun, relaxing, and enjoyable. If you feel stressed about it or uncomfortable then something is wrong. Try to make it better, if you can’t, leave me a comment and I’ll try to put you on the right path to my only happy place!

What are the good (and bad) reasons for watching camgirls

Good reasons:

Camgirls are hot – That is why I like looking at them, and that’s why you do as well. A hot girl is basically nice to look at, and we want to stare, to talk, to interact. And on the street, at the gym or in a Starbucks that really isn’t ok; but at a cam site it is fine. It is what they expect and are totally ok with.

It is a safe way to explore sexuality – Sex is more than just fucking your wife, and if you have any interests that are even a little bit “unusual” then that can make life difficult for you.

Do you get off on pretty feet?

On being dominated?

On girls bent over?

Doing anal?

Fisting themselves?

On watching anal self-fisting?

Each one is perfectly normal in its own way, but maybe your wife, or your friends, your church, or just the world around you don’t agree.

But on a camgirl site it is just a few clicks away from finding a (hot, see above) girl who not only thinks that is fine, but is in a chat room full of other people who also know that it is fine.

Cam sites provide a safe, non-judgmental space to enjoy your real interests without fear of criticism or rejection. Or if you do get “rejected” (aka banned by the camgirl), then it is just a click away from another room that accepts you.

This is by far the main reason that camgirl sites are valuable, but there are other reasons as well:

Quick cums – We all need to cum sometimes, and as much as I love my Lovense Lush vibrator I cum easier with some mental stimulation, and watching and chatting with someone hot makes it easier. Need a quick cum? Watch a camgirl. Can’t find one who is posed or behaving just right? Choose from her tip menu for the right pose or activity, or take her private to get her all to yourself, and you’ll shoot your load easily.

Slow chats to a happy finish – This is more of a mixture; there are times when you just need to talk to someone who understand you. And while I’ll not over-stress the “golden-hearted whore as therapist” idea there is certainly some truth to it.

It does a soul good to be able to talk openly about what we really feel, and frankly speaking camgirls get paid by the minute to be good listeners as well as good masturbators. And what therapist is going to help you have a happy finish? I will, and any cam girl will as well. We want you to be happy, and if you finish your session with me by having good orgasm then that is good for me as well as for you.

Bad reasons:

I have to be realistic, there are some very bad reasons people watch camgirls. And if any of this feels familiar then you need to take a careful look at yourself before you go any deeper.

Getting addicted – Anything good, that stimulates the pleasure centers of the mind, risks becoming additive. Don’t get to a point where you would do something you know perfectly well you shouldn’t just because you need it to cam.

Be that spend too much, or failing to touch-the-grass because you are indoors in my chat room all day.

As the fun of a cam room is more relaxed and fluid, and the high is an oxytocin high (from orgasm) and not a dopamine high (like from shoplifting) the danger is not the same as with other addictions. However, it’s still important to be mindful of your habits and maintain a healthy balance between online and offline socializing, and looking for female companions in real life.

Which takes me to the next one.

Looking for a real-life girlfriend – This is not why you should be camming.

Online dating isn’t great, and dating sites are not camgirl sites, and camgirls are not looking to meet guys in real life.

I’ve written about this in detail before so just read this: How Do I Get A Girlfriend on Chaturbate? TL;DR: don’t, do not try this, do not even think about it.

Camming safely

Like any new activity be it surfboard, 3D printing, tennis or camming, safety is key. Take a little while out at the beginning to ensure you don’t do something unsafe that will come back and cause you trouble later on.

When it comes to online activities, unlike surfboarding for example, the dangers are not about breaking bones but are about protecting your personal information and maintaining your privacy.

The online world isn’t really that dangerous, but just as you wouldn’t walk around in a bad part of town at 2 am wearing flash jewelry you shouldn’t do unsafe things online.

Here are the basics to keeping yourself safe:

Use a unique and uninformative username and consider using a separate email address for your camming activities, privacy-first email services like ProtonMail are good for this.

Be cautious about sharing personal details in chat rooms and remember that your interactions may not be entirely private. It is nice to let her know your name is John, but you don’t have to tell her what town you live in, or even the state. If you think that matters, then re-read the “girlfriends” section above.

Don’t turn on your webcam or microphone, keep them off, covered or disconnected until you are ready to try safely try cam2cam.

Don’t give out your real name or provide personal information that can identify you except to reputable payment processors. Consider using a pseudonym payment system such as gift cards, paysafecards or cryptocurrency instead of a regular credit or debit card.

Set a budget for your camming activities and stick to it. It’s easy to get carried away with tipping and private shows, but remember that the models are there to make money, and you’re there to have fun within your limits. Never spend more than you can afford. Some sites let you set thresholds for budgeting, if possible, do use these.

Enjoying watching camgirls

Now you are all prepared, now comes the fun part. It is time to open up the top cam sites and start browsing the world of video chat rooms. Start by looking through the different rooms and categories. Don’t be shy to click around and see what catches your eye, in the busy rooms honestly the girls don’t even see you come in and leave. In smaller rooms, they may notice you and greet you, and that’s good.

Learn to tell the difference between the automated greetings, and the ones where the camgirl actually notices you. But don’t be discouraged by automated “Hi” messages, they’re just a way to make the room feel welcoming. Focus on the interactions that follow, as that’s where you’ll see the camgirl’s personality and see if she is the sort you are interested in.

Remember, everyone has their own preferences, and it’s okay to explore different types of rooms and models.

Once you find a camgirl that you like, take a moment to read her bio and the rules of her room. This will give you an idea of what type of interaction she expects and what she offers. Some camgirls have specific rules about what they will and won’t do, and it’s important to keep these in mind. There is no point in hanging out in a room where the girl doesn’t do something that is important to you.

If you’re unsure about something, don’t hesitate to ask politely in the chat. In a tipping site expect to make a small, but not single-digit, tip to show you are serious about talking.

Once you’re comfortable with the camgirl’s rules and expectations, start talking in the chat. Be polite, friendly, and genuine. A lot of us get very bored being online for hours, if you can be fun and interesting them we’ll talk to you even without tips. But if a customer comes in the room, if you are not also a tipper then expect to be ignored, at least temporarily.

Try saying something nice about her. Not just the usual “great ass” that she has heard too many times. Put a bit of effort into it and you can get a dialogue going. Building a good rapport can make camming more fun makes it go more smoothly for both of you.

Think of a camgirl as being similar to a barista at a small coffee shop, she is there to serve the drinks and likes to be told clearly what you want, and doesn’t mind just hanging if the shop is quiet. But ultimately this is her job, and she expects to be compensated for her time and effort. Just like you wouldn’t expect a barista to give you free coffee, you shouldn’t expect a camgirl to perform without some form of payment, whether that’s tips or taking her private.

Knowing when enough is enough

Watching cam girls is a great hobby, I highly recommend it. However, it isn’t everything in life.

Like any hobby, it is great to get involved, but don’t let it consume your life. Balance is key, so make sure to set yourself some limits, and reasonable expectations. Make sure you allocate time, and money, for other interests and responsibilities.

Camgirls are there to entertain and engage, but we are not a substitute for genuine emotional connections. If you find yourself seeking emotional support or a deep connection with a camgirl, it might be a sign that you need to address other aspects of your life.

Feeling lonely or need someone to talk to about personal issues? Consider reaching out to friends, family, or even a professional counselor. Camming should be a fun and enjoyable experience, not a replacement for real-life relationships.

Watching Masterchef is not a replacement for cooking dinner.

Camming should be a fun and enjoyable experience, not a replacement for real-life relationships.

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Now, are you ready to start your cam journey? Create your first free accounts at some major cam sites, and throw a few small ones into the mix. Make sure you follow my guidelines above to get started.

Major sites not to be missed:

Interesting smaller sites:

And something a bit different (gaming, and face-to-face respectively):

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